Question:
Sheikh
I have a wife who is jealous if she saw me spend my money to my mother and bought
her what she needs ... then what should I do ???
Sheikh
hafidzohullah answered:
Your
wife wants to be jealous, wants to die, and wants to live, do not you worry, even
though her jealousy goes through the
sky. It should not be affected to you, because
devotion to your mother is obligatory
(wajib) for you.
It
is your mother’s right ..
Your
wife wants to block you from your devotion
towards your mother ???
Who
is she ???
She
wants to prevent you from your mother , who
loves you, tired of carried you in her womb and even she was suffered when she
delivered you.
Who
is able to compete with a mother’s sacrifice her child ??
This
is a lame wife, why would she be that jealous
of the child who wants to be devoted to
his mother ???
Even
some scholars say this is an insane and it is not jealousy anymore ..
There
is a jealousy and there is madness.
But what
this wife did is worse and the lowest act.
The rights
of a mother is very massive ..
And
as a wife she should be devoted to God, and she should know that the happiness
of her husband in the world and the hereafter is in the devotion to his mother
..
And
if the wife tries to prevent the husband from being devoted then she should be careful to Allah’s threat
.
This
is a battle that’s blown by satan to
ruin a servant of Allah who is obedient
and devoted to his mother), that is the wife who controls her husband….
On
the other hand, there are some of husbands that jealous to his wife when she
tries to devoted to her father or mother, too …
That
all is tricks of satan ... This is insane and not jealousy ..
And
a mukmin ( a believer ) should fear Allah and he / she should know the Mother’s rights are massive ... and use this opportunity when the mother
is still alive before you cry over her departure (dies)..
Ignore
your wife, your friends or your close friends when they try to prevent your
devotion to your Mother…
It
is worth noticing that your current position now is all there for the reasons
because of your Mother has been looking after you and taking care of you….,
before you cry over her departure (dies) because your devotion to her is not
enough (deficient) ...
The
Prophet said:
الزم
رجلها
"Remain
constantly at her feet (always devoted to her)"
It
is not enough for you only fulfil her needs, but try to always close to her, and
giving your devotion to her , Allahu Akbar ....
You
know the heaven that the saheed (warriors) had to sacrifice their lives to
achieve it, then heaven is also achieved by your mother’s feet "
Subhanallah
... ilzam sentence rijlaha (remain constantly at her feet)
if
you look closely and think this sentence
then you will wonder …...
The
Prophet did not say to be devoted to your mother, or fulfil your mother’s
needs.. but it’s more than that…. which is for you to always be on her side and
your devotion to her…
A
young man who came from Yemen said to the Prophet:
"O
Messenger of Allah, I migrated from Yemen to Medina (the city) to ba'iat
(pledging spiritual allegiance) to you, convert to Islam and struggle together
with you ...
The
Prophet said: Is your mother still alive,
And
he said: Yes O Messenger of Allah ...
The
Prophet said: Remain constantly at her feet ... "
Do
we know what is the word of “remain constantly at her feet ????”
It
shows a greatest loyalty act…
We
all know that the feet is located at the bottom, so remain at her feet is a
form of submissiveness and obedient to our parents ...
Islam
is the religion of the mighty ... but related to devotion to our parents,
therefore we should show our humbleness to our parents ..
Not
only in the Koran, but in the hadith (Sunnah) of the Prophet explained this issue ...
واخفض
لهما جناح الذل
Allah
mentions the word “dzull” (low)
And in Sunnah also mentioned
الزم
رجلها
(remain
constantly at her feet)
Remain
at her feet, for that is where your Paradise lies…
Actually
you're in heaven now, you're in happiness
when your mother's heart is generous,
sincere and happy upon you ...
As
long as your mother is still alive then achieve it and do not waste it.
Before
tears of regret come to you ....
Close
all the tongues off from trying to stop you to be devoted to your mother ...
Cover
your ears when someone trying to stop you to be devoted to your mother ...
Tell
your wives from her first day with you "do not you dare to speak if I want to devote myself to my mother,,, do not you
ever stop me to be devoted to
my mother ..."
It
is your obligation and it is your mother’s right ... do you know what is your mother’s right to you ????
Although
you do everything for her but still you will not be able to pay back what your
mother has struggle to you….
For
someone who’s seen it from the Qur’an and Sunnah then he would see that the
rights of the mother is mentioned so much.
Yes
... we know that the wife also has right to you ... but there is more right
than simply only rights ...
If
your mother wants you to go to work and your wife said: "What is this you
are always out, I have never be able to sit relax with you ...
So
tell your wife: "Sshh, Keep quite ! ... This is my mother, my heaven and my
hell ... so do not comment anything about my parents ..."
At
that moment you have to make your wife quite ... do not let your wife or your friends get involve between you and your mother ...
So
when there are words come out from your wife or your friends that protest when
you want to be devoted to your mother,
at the same time stop them all .... ... tell them that they may comment
anything but not about your mother ...
I
willed myself and all of you to fear Allah and specially to this woman to fear
Allah ...
A
wife should treat her mother inlaw as she treat her own mother… She should be
devoted to her, respect her and honor her…
These
are the character of Saleha Women ( Pious Women). The wife that saleha would
struggle to be devoted to her husband and supports her husband’s devotion to
his mother…
Saleha
women should wake her husband to be devoted to his mother ...
Saleha
wife should invite him to be devoted to his mother even he was in relaxing...
When
her husband came home and he was tired, then saleha wife would say:
"blessed you, my husband verily you
had just returned from heaven ... if you meet the needs of your mother's right
then God would meet our needs also ..."
Because
the blessing of devoting child to his parents would make God gives blessings to
his life..either his wealth , his children, his deeds and so on ...
Saleha
wife should reinforce her husband when he is weak to be devoted to his mother
...
Be aware
for you not to follow the lame wife like that ... That was insane and not
jealousy ... do not let your love to
your wife beat your love to your mother ...
May
God give taufiq (able to success given by Allah) and hidayah (guidance) to us
all Amiiin ....
Nabicity26/4/1436H
Translation
of some of the recording from questions and answer by Sheikh Muhammad bin
Mukhtar al-syinqithi -hafidzohullah ta'ala-
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